This is a long post so to be succinct these are my questions (please no judgments we are all tired and emotional).
- At 9mo what it the longest I might expect to leave my DS to cry? Can you point to research, methods, guidance.
- If CC has worked on one night is it an indicator that DS is ready for the method.
- What are we doing wrong and how can we put it right?
The Details
My DS is 9mo. Never been a good sleeper, waking every 2 hours. We have been managing sleep by sharing the night. DH 10pm-2am wake ups, FF, rocking back to sleep. Me 2am-6am BF and co-sleeping.
While there has been some improvement on my DH side of the night, occasionally sleeping 4 hours (1 in 10 days). My side has got worse as he has become more mobile and increasingly hard to settle. Some nights we are up for 2.5 hours.
So we have tried rolling with the punches, co-sleeping is not the answer, we do not sleep. My DS is not getting enough night time sleep and neither are we.
We began Controlled Crying on Saturday night (I was by myself) and it went brilliantly. DS woke 5 times, always back to sleep by the 6 minute mark and slept from 12.30am - 5.30am. Result
However, last night was carnage. Bed at 7pm - asleep within 10 minutes (grumbling but not distressed). Wake up at 11.45am settled self back to sleep.
Woke at 12.30am - grumbled for 16 minutes then I started checking on him, 2mins, 4 mins increasing to 15mins - after 1 hour not settle.
I then BF him and put him back down awake, more tears and after 20 minutes we gave up and DH rocked him back to sleep. He then slept 2 hours.
What do we do next? See questions above.
Thanks for any help we are so worn out and distressed