DS is 6.5 months and has been a bad sleeper since about 3.5. Prior to that he slept great.
What changed three months ago is I went back to work and he started nursery several days a week. He's been I'll essentially nonstop since then, with a succession of viruses which pick up one after the other. There has been no break.
I've been to the GP a trillion times and an doing everything to help with sleep - tilted cot, humidifer, saline, etc etc. The last three weeks it's less stuffiness than a cough that's keeping him up. He also may be teething.
He's gone through various phases if fighting sleep for many hours each evening to waking every hour (or more) during the night. The past week, it's all together.
We start bedtime routine (bath, feed, story/calm time, put down in cot next to our bed) at 6 and try to get him down by 7. He might finally drop off and stay asleep by 8:30 or 9. Then he's up again at 10 or 11 and needing resettling. Which can take hours.
DH and I take turns, but there's only so much he can do as I'm feeding him and only BF will settle him at some times. Last night I had three hours sleep. Tonight I'm looking at two stretches of two hours. I'm demented with exhaustion and I can't think of anything more we can try.
I'm also catching everything DS does but much worse. I have an autoimmune disease, and exhaustion plus lots of bugs makes it worse. I also have issues with anxiety, especially when exhausted, so I waste precious energy worrying every new fever is something deadly.
At the moment I'm trying to cosleep with DH taking a turn in the guest room. DS still wakes frequently but is easier to settle. But I lie awake cold and in an uncomfortable position, worried about DS smothering on duvet/pillow/me or rolling out of bed.
I've begged HV to come speak to me, but, though she'll come in a few weeks, she's all but said she won't be able to help. GP was sympathetic and said to try some Gaviscon, but again can't do much. Family is all far away. Friends have kindly offered to take DS for a night, but while he's unwell and needing so much attention I don't feel it's fair on then or him.
I feel like I can't go I like this, but can't think of any alternative. It's been three months, it's getting worse, my DH has broken down in tears twice in the last week and I'm literally shaking with exhaustion during the day to the extent I worry about holding DS safely.
It feels healthier to have gotten all this out, but don't really know what I expect anyone to be able to suggest. Any tips on cosleeping safely? Any sources of support I've overlooked? Anyone been through this and now out the other side? Thanks.
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HJBeans · 22/02/2014 04:29
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