How do you 'train' a 5month old to sleep with his 22month old sister in the next room?

[jaybirdsinginginthedeadofnight]

I do not know what to do with DS, thus far he is a terrible sleeper, but I want to take the plunge and by the beginning of March put him into his own room. He wakes in the night every 2-3hrs, I am currently exhausted and not looking forward to having to get out of bed to settle him rather than just leaning over the Moses basket and putting the dummy in or lifting him into our bed and co sleeping. I need a plan of what to do, should I work on the issues while he's still in our room or just go for it and try him in the cot? Also worried he'll wake DD, who sleeps 11-12hrs but it took us 17months to get her to that stage!

Is there a sleep training method that comes highly recommended, I am willing to try anything!

[GoodnessIsThatTheTime]

Co sleep until he's bigger?

[jaybirdsinginginthedeadofnight]

In an ideal world yeah, but I've to go back to work in a couple of months and I work night shifts, so I'm not always there. DH also works silly hours so he would ideally need to be sleeping in a cot to be looked after by someone else. DH won't co sleep if I'm not there he is a deep sleeper and afraid he would roll over on him. DH currently in the spare room again due to silly hours he works and DS's crap sleep. So DH and I would like to share our bed again with 2 babies in their own beds, I'll just take off my rose tinted specs now........

[jaybirdsinginginthedeadofnight]

Arghhhhh! I fear I have created a monster mummy's boy who wont sleep more than a foot from me! Awful night made worse by 2 dirty nappies, what's that all about? Anyone with a success story, I need you now!!

[TheGreatHunt]

Have you ruled out why he's waking so much? My two were shit sleepers because of silent reflux (very few obvious visible symptoms), tongue tie or dairy intolerance? Otherwise sleep won't improve until they're tackled.

Also 5 months is quite young - maybe wait until the sleep regression has passed and 6 month growth spurt. But weaning onto solids could chuck in a spanner.

[jaybirdsinginginthedeadofnight]

TheGreatHunt yeah I've tried and failed to figure him out, when he wakes he's happy and content so I'm pretty sure it's not reflux (DD had silent reflux so I know what that's like) or hunger. There is no doubt when he's hungry, the whole street knows when he's hungry . I think (though I truly don't know) that he just can't sleep from one sleep cycle to the next, he is similar when he naps during they day though I can often catch him as he begins to stir and quickly settle him over again. So that's why I think he needs some sleep training and there are so many methods out there I dunno where to start. He takes a dummy but would like to wean him off it as it's more a hinderence than a help.

Just a bit low this morning as he hasn't slept well for three nights in a row now and I've managed to pull something in my shoulder/neck so am in agony to add to my misery, DH working all weekend just to make things even better

[jaybirdsinginginthedeadofnight]

Guess I'll just take the plunge and try him in his own cot keeping the dummy for now (work on getting rid later). What's the worst that can happen - I'll get no sleep, nothing new there then!

[TheGreatHunt]

I would give it another month tbh - once you get last the sleep regression stage! Mine massively improved at 6 months.

[jaybirdsinginginthedeadofnight]

TheGreatHunt thanks you might be right and I dunno if I have the energy to do it yet anyway. Thanks for replying I really appreciate it

[pussycatdoll]

Can't he sleep in the spare room ?
Do you have 3 bedrooms ?