DS is 8 months old. Every night and every naptime I breastfeed him to sleep- this has now become the rod for my back that mumsnet reassured me it wouldn't. He is reluctant to take expressed milk, he'll drink it if he's desperate but only with a lot of whinging and fussing, it doesn't have a calming effect.
If I put him down awake he cries, then it becomes screaming - I mean the kind of screaming that will make the neighbours worry for his welfare.
It's not just the feeding to sleep that's the problem. Often he wakes up about 30-60 mins after putting him down and cries. He has to be picked up or it gets messy- but I can usually rock/shush/sing him back to sleep at this point (later on he demands another feed or he'll scream). However- If DH goes to him, he carries on screaming worse and becomes hysterical until he gets his mummy. Recently I've been sending DH so he can "practice" but DS gets more and more upset until I go in, then he calms as soon as I am there. So I restart the whole calming and settling thing again. So usually it just ends up being muggins here that goes to him.
He always wakes in the night for a feed, at least once. I'm pretty sure its more a comfort thing than anything else. He eats 3 good meals and I've tried giving him weetabix for supper before bed, but it made no difference. Recently he's been feeding/sucking for longer, I have tried the pantley pull-off thing he either wakes and cries, or now actually reaches in my top for my boob!
I haven't been out in the evening since September. Every single evening since he was born has been me feeding him to sleep, then going to bed.
I go back to work in a month. Often I have to work late and won't get home till nearly 10pm so DH will have to get him to bed on these nights. I really don't know how they will cope. DH isn't really doing anything pro-active to improve the situation (that's putting it politely). Going back to work is getting closer and closer and I just feel like nothing is improving.
Can anyone help?
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paperclips · 23/05/2013 22:46
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