Should we carry on or stop before we drop? 18 month old needs eviction.

[bunnybunyip]

18 month old dd has always coslept but recently I have been getting less and less sleep as she scratches at me whilst feeding, is restless, takes up half the bed, and wants to feed or at least be latched on for half the night.
So we decided to do some sleep training. Just done the 5th night and it is getting worse if anything, she was up about 8 times, sometimes appearing fast asleep then waking a few mins later. We are taking turns to go in when she cries, she is in a low open sided cot and we are rapidly returning her if she has jumped out. Then settling her with either a hand on her, or a cuddle in her cot if she is hysterical, but no feeding. It is not too difficult getting her down, just keeping her asleep. Ds is in the same room so we can't have too much noise to disturb him.
She still bf morning and before bed. Any advice, we are both at work in the day like zombies. I am on the edge of giving up, cosleeping was better than this.

[ClipClapClop]

Dare I suggest a dummy?

[bunnybunyip]

thanks CCC; we tried a dummy when DD was very little but she just spat it out, I wasn't sure at 18 months whether she would be interested. But I can try, I sure we still have one somewhere!

[bunnybunyip]

Bump!

[becsparkel]

Stopping both cosleeping & bf at night might be too much all at once. I would concentrate on 1 thing at a time. This is a good article on night weaning, especially for cosleepers: drjaygordon.com/attachment/sleeppattern.html

[bunnybunyip]

Thanks. We did try jay Gordon a few months ago but it was difficult; when co-sleeping if I try not to feed, dd gets very upset and claws at me all night, is quite distressing for us both. I had to sleep in a different room and dh struggled on his own with no sleep.
The alternative, giving up the cosleeping but still feeding, makes me shudder I would end up sitting feeding in a chair all night.
Basically, there is no easy answer I think, but things may be getting slightly easier. She is waking a bit less and settling quicker so hopefully we will get there (day 8 tonight, yawn!)