Both DCs have been bad sleepers. At around 18m we Baby Whispered DS1 and with the help of a GroClock and increased understanding he "got it" and has slept well in his own bed since.
In order to function as a parent to DS1 (pre-school run, no adult daytime nap, etc) I have been co-sleeping with DS2 since the 4-6m regression. This has resulted in lots of sleep for everyone (hurrah) but a very attached toddler.
DH and I are both fed up. We are supposed to be ttc#3 but keep missing fertile days because we can't do it with him in the bed, and he is waking for attention early so we can't even use the spare room.
So we are planning BW (PUPD) again from this weekend. Obviously it's more complicated this time round so I have questions for your opinions, please.
- What do we do with DS1? The boys share a room and it is important for DS2's "training" (hate that word) to take place in the place where he actually sleeps - his familiar cot in that room. Should we let DS1 sleep elsewhere for the duration of the training (ptions are our bed - ha! the irony, or the spare room but that is downstairs so I would make encourage DH to sleep down there too)? There is no local family support to call on.
- Given that DS2 is used to "bf to sleep, put down in cot, when wake up get brought to big bed and bf back to sleep, helping self occasionally until morning" and the aim is "bf, put down in cot awake, fall asleep, self-settle, see you in the morning"... is it better to go for one change at a time, or all in one go?
My feeling is that if we bite the bullet DS1 will be more cross (using pupd to avoid distress but not annoyance/fury) but it will ultimately be less confusing for a child who can't read a clock and doesn't know what cycle day I am on.
Any thoughts gratefully accepted. I won't do cc/Gina Ford though.
although she did have a period of sleeping in her own bed so I know she can do it....! 
