DS is 9mo and has never been a great sleeper - still has a minimum of 2 bfs during the night although it can often be more like 4. I have toyed with the idea of doing some kind of sleep training but have been too exhausted and feel instinctively against cc (although I would never say never, especially as I am going back to work full time in 2 months!).
Anyway, our most recent barrier to sleep (following teething, colds etc) is that ds has learned how to go from lying to sitting - he has already woken twice this evening crying and I went in and he was siting up, rubbing his eyes and looking very bemused. I just tend to lie him down and shush him til he goes back off, but last night at 3.30 this didn't work - he just kept getting back up again and again until I caved in and brought him into our bed. I always feel like I have failed when I do this but it is happening more and more often - any advice??
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Moulesfrites · 23/10/2011 19:58
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Absolutely no advice but lots of sympathy as my DD is exactly the same except in one week she has learnt to sit up from lying down and also stand in her cot so as you can imagine sleep is not really happening in this house!! I also go back to work next month so it gets better and better 
I will be watching and hoping for a magical cure x
Maybe once they both realise its not that exciting anymore, they will stop doing the acrobatics and sleep all night not bloody likely 
Thanks wigeon, I know I shouldn't feel bad about it.
Had to abandon the morning nap today as he just kept getting up even though he was so tired, ended up going out and he slept in the car. What do I do? My mum says just to leave him and he will lie down and go to sleep
Sorry you're having troubles. I think unfortunately you may have to lower your expectations (very hard, I know!)
My DD was always a fairly rubbish sleeper, she was still having night feeds at that age. All of a sudden at 16 months she decided to sleep through, and has done it ever since 
(barring the odd cold) I know how you feel, it's awful that you just want them to sleep, and I've done my fair share of 2am car journeys to get her to settle.
How long does it take to settle your DS? Perhaps I was lazy, it was always quicker to feed DD that to try and train her! I also had pressure from family about what a terrible sleeper she was. My DM was very proud of the fact that my DB and I slept all night from very early on, she conveniently forgets about the hefty dose of Vallergan we got on a regular basis
Oh PLEASE do not feel like this is some kind of indicator of how 'good' a parent you are!
I have 2 dses. Ds1 slept all night from about 6 mths. Almost always. I can count on on hand the number of night wakings he had after that. I was a smug cow.
Then ds2 arrived. He is17 mths and 4 wakings would be a fantastic night for us!
Remember -people lie/forget about the nights. My mum and mil go on about how we slept so well, etc, etc, but both were given knock out drops for us at 6 wks!
It is tiring - I co sleep, which I never even considered with ds1 so it maximises rest for me. It WILL be over and in the not too distant future. Get what rest you can when you can.
It is entirely natural and normal for infants and young kids to need their parents at night. Our bodies are still under the impression that we are living in the open air and they are very vulnerable, so they NEED to have us nearby and responsive so they don't get eaten by wolves.
More sympathy. You have some lucky friends if they are aghast that he isn't sleeping through at 9 months. Or maybe they aren't parents?!
Twice a night waking isn't wonderful (for you!) but it's really really not that unusual. If you hang out on these boards you'll see lots of similar stories! As I've said, my DD certainly wasn't sleeping all night every night then.
On the co-sleeping - it's not necessarily a choice between 100% co-sleeping or 100% not. At the moment DD2 sleeps in her cot when we can get her to, and when she won't settle we don't beat ourselves up about it (and spend hours trying to get her to), we just co-sleep. I do sleep better when she's in her cot, but I definitely prefer co-sleeping to desperate and failed attempts to force her to sleep in her cot when she clearly doesn't want to.
On the morning nap - I would be at your mum too! Pushing him round in the pushchair might work? Or just cuddling to sleep if he's clearly tired as you've said?
No brilliant words of wisdom on the getting up, although if it's a new skill then I would really hope that it's just a phase (a cliche, but a cliche for a reason!)...
Sounds like you might like the No Cry Sleep Solution which is "gentle ways to get your baby to sleep" and good if you instinctively feel that controlled crying etc is not for you or your baby. If nothing else, it makes you feel you are actually doing something, even if it's not a magic bullet!
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