I think I’m gay

[poppiedaisie]

I have never really been attracted to men. I think I thought I would when I met the right one but I haven’t and I think it’s because I’m gay. I convinced myself for a long time that I wasn’t - I’m not sure why.

As stupid as it sounds I’ve no idea how to go about meeting someone. I think I’m up for s bit of experimentation but again I don’t know where to start.

Don’t quite know what I want - practical advice on the one hand but I also am very confused and like I’m questioning everything about myself.

[Wanderwall]

Could you try a dating app? You can set your preference to men or women on there.

[mrspicklepants27]

Definitely get out there, try a dating site? Or even a night in a gay bar. You never know, have no regrets x

[poppiedaisie]

Thanks. The problem is, I’m not sure myself - I imagine internet dating would be more for people who were secure in their ‘gayness’, so to speak

[Mimsy123]

As mrspicklepants27 has suggested, a gay bar is probably a good option. Do you have any friends who could go along with you, for moral support?

[purplepigs]

@poppiedaisie I would def suggest a dating app. I was in ur position a long time ago. Had an experience with a women when I was 18 as the opportunity was there and it was just extremely good timing - it was amazing all I ever thought about and imagined. However it fizzled out mainly because I don't think I was ready to come out out - but I then began to see men again as it was socially more acceptable then I joined a dating site just for women and it allowed me to go at my pace and also have those chats to help me with my confidence. Try! You won't regret being yourself.

[busybarbara]

Are you actually attracted to women or are you assuming you're gay because men don't do it for you? You could just be asexual..

[purplepigs]

@busybarbara that is a really good question.

[Girliefriendlikesflowers]

I have been thinking about this recently as well, I've always got on better with women and had lots of female friends but wouldn't say I'm attracted sexually to them.

That said I've never had a successful relationship with a man, I don't particularly find their bodies attractive iykwim but have enjoyed sex with them at times.

I'm not sure if it's worth experimenting with a woman just to see if it does do anything for me?!

I'm nearly 40 and still so confused by all this 😐