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Oral and Personal Hygiene(18 Posts)
Posting this to show to DH as we've been discussing it recently.
We both love oral, giving and receiving. However I find it difficult when DH's penis tastes/smells of stale urine. If we know we are going to be doing oral he will specifically wash which usually is fine although it doesn't always get rid of it entirely. This means that spontaneous oral is out of the question.
He says he washes regularly so I think it can only be three things:
1) it's normal and most men and women have the same problem but they just wash as much as possible and then just deal with the unpleasantness.
2) he's not washing enough
3) His forskin is stopping him from keeping it clean.
He does have a tight forskin which doesn't retract easily and stays over the glans throughout sex, if it retracts its overly sensitive and he doesn't enjoy sex as much. I think he could talk to the GP about it and perhaps have the little op that loosens it.
Your opinions/experiences would be much appreciated.
OH always washes in shower beforehand and never taste of urine, there is not a lingering taste or smell.
How does your dh wash?
I have a sensitive sense of taste (and smell) and haven't ever experienced this issue when the person I was with was fresh from the shower. Your DH needs to retract his foreskin when he washes.
My OH always washes beforehand, but there is no smell or taste. I think the problem stems from his tight foreskin and the urine is probably retained under the foreskin, hence the lingering odour. He will need to discuss this with the GP.
My DH had a similar issue with tight foreskin, it stopped us from having a balanced sex life for over a year because of a few reasons, he never felt completely clean and it split the skin so was very painful for him.
He's since had a circumcision after seeking help from the GP.
Took a while to heal but now he has no issues with it, it's always clean and spontaneous oral sessions are frequent. Which he's really happy with of course 😂
As we know, mens bits come in all shapes,sizes and appearances. For example mine, although i am not circumcised, actually appears as if i am because when it is soft,the glans are fully exposed and it would actually be impossible to cover the head with the foreskin as there simply isnt enough of it to go that far !
Now for a man to have a tight foreskin when he is erect would seem to be a problem since an erect penis which still has enough skin to cover the glans should also have free mobilty for it to easily glide back.
As others have suggested, this could well be the cause.
I do think he really needs to get a medical opinion.
Of course we should all ensure we are shower fresh if we ae planning to make love unless of course its spontaneous !
You shouldnt have to endure a smelly wily, it should be fresh, clean and inviting so that you positively relish sucking on it.
Before heading to the GP, there's some simple stretching techniques he can practice, best done in or after a bath so the foreskin is soft and more pliable. Google is your (his) friend.
Always have a wash of bits beforehand and it never smells after, I would get it looked at if I was him.
DP never smells of urine, even with an impromptu bit of oral.
I had a previous partner with phimosis, where the foreskin wouldn't retract and it used to smell awful. The foreskin would balloon with urine and was never really clean.
There's a risk of cancer with with condition so it's definitely worth a trip to the GP if it doesn't retract properly.
Even with normal PIV I wouldn't like the thought of an unclean penis.
Thank you all for your insight. I will share it with DH and we'll go from there. Stretches and thorough cleaning and then GP as a plan B.
If it's just a urine smell rather than a smeg smell then I imagine he can retract his foreskin well enough to clean it. But what happens is when he has a pee, a drop or 2 gets trapped and will then lead to the stale pee smell pretty quickly. I imagine the same would be said for women too; it's all very well having a shower but if you have sex a few hours later you may well still be fresh but if you've had a pee there will be residue and a possible stale pee smell. All he'd have to do is rinse his cock in water after a pee. Problem solved.
I've got a really sensitive sense of smell and taste and have to insist he showers right before. He's not a daily washer so it's essential. I still gag when I swallow and can't help it. Any tips for that?!
maybe tell him he should wash his cock every day if he wants oral?
Red stripe I'd suggest you don't don't swallow or let him ejaculate in your mouth.
Ime all non circumcised penises have a bit of a smell. Circumcised penises are much more fragrant.
gallavich I don't know how to put it without it sounding weird but it would seem disrespectful not to swallow. Also the gagging is a relatively new thing. Didn't used to happen at all and it's really embarrassing for me!
Interesting findings about the circumcised penises
Redstripe I don't know how to put this without sounding like a twat but most men wouldn't make you feel disrespectful for not wanting a bellyful of their bodily fluids. It's really not disrespectful to decline to have semen in your mouth and especially not to decline to swallow it. The fact that you think that way is probably due to the fact that your partner is abusive and you are trained to attend to his wants way above your own needs.
You don't sound like a twat ! I was trying to think of the right words to put it because disrespectful sounds awful but I can't think of how else to describe it.
I think it must be something he said years ago and it's stuck in my mind. I've only given him head once since we got back together and I almost vomited . It started in pregnancy when my gag reflex when crazy with morning sickness and I've never got it back.