My DS often tells me that many kids often put him down, say he's ugly, rubbish at sport or joke about his grades. He went into year 7 not knowing anyone. Sadly we had no choice but to move home and the new school has been a huge shock, and sounds just like an American high school movie!
DS is sweet and a loyal friend, but he's not a cool kid. He's had some very good strong friendships in the past and leaving them behind has been very difficult for him.
DS has made a couple of friends, but realises they won't be friends he will ever see out of school. He obviously tried to make more. He says kids often just ignore him or walk off, or they are downright rude and very clear he's not wanted. DS is knowledgeable so he comes across smart, but academically does struggle - he appears mostly average to above average in some subjects. Last term eg a boy grabbed his book to prove to other kids he wasn't as smart as he appeared and they all had a good laugh at his expense. A boy threatened to beat him up, a girl called him gay, constantly tells him he's an idiot, weirdo etc (she does have major problems tbh and does this not just to DS but many boys). These are almost daily put downs by multiple kids so it's not bullying. He's becoming more withdrawn with the constant put downs.
What's more DS is in an outstanding secondary known for its pastoral care. My son has a sixth form mentor but other than that no help. There are so many children with terrible problems that need help more than him!
So my question really is, is this something new for this generation or was I just very lucky growing up? I had the occasional sly remarks about being a swot, I was chubby but never told that by my friends. I only remember one incident of name calling in secondary growing up!! I'm female. Maybe it's always been this way amongst boys? Even my DH says he endured a lot of name calling but with the other stuff hes baffled.
Do kids just have no filter these days??
We are moving DS to a new school but are still apprehensive that this is just the way things are these days.
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Were kids always this outspoken?
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Smith888 · 11/04/2019 08:14
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