Apologies as have seen quite a few threads on chosing secondary school where there is a choice between 'rough' and 'better' but not many have mentioned the child friends situation we seem to have.
Our boy is in excellent primary but feeds into what is considered the rougher secondary, what we didn't realise at time was how many of the children in his class that are in the catchment for the better secondary but chose his primary as it was excellent at the time.
The result of this is that the majority of his class will be going to the better secondary. Those that aren't in the better catchment will apply for it although this is a bit of a lottery as some years they have spaces but usually not. His best friend is in catchment for the better school and his other main friends will be applying.
The main consideration is that our boy is extremely sensitive (and lovely !)- cries at drop of a hat, hates competitive team sports like football/rugby and so hasn't made many friends outside the class or bonded through sport indside the school. He does athletics but not really a team thing.
He does seem quite bright so hope when streamed - that happens in first week apparently he will be in the higher sets but likely to be without anyone he knows from his primary.
The rough school has improved in recent years but due to its catchment has a large element of kids he hasn't mixed with before. I personally went to what would now be considered a sink school and whilst left with almost no qualifications things turned out okay, not sure how easy that is to achieve nowadays.
Don't really want to go to drastic measure of moving to guarantee the better school although haven't written it off as current house needs lots of work and not sure can face doing it !
The rough school does have some benefits like he could potentially cycle there rather than a bus as it is too far to walk. The ofsted of the rough school was a few years back - guess must be due one, it recently had an amazing head that was really starting to turn school around but he has recently left and bit early to guage new one.
Guess boils down to concerned about sending very sensitive boy to rough school with none of his friends. On the flip side I am also concerned about molly coddling him too much as more likely to get some real world experiences at the rougher school to better prepare him for what lays ahead after school.
Any advice much appreciated....
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lozrobin · 17/10/2018 15:30
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