I feel so anxious about secondary school choices. Sorry for the long post but don't want to drip feed.
Dd is in year 5, small school. We moved away from the catchment a few years ago but left her in the primary. She was year 2 and secondary seemed so far away. And here we are.
- Our catchment secondary is bad. Not an option.
- Catchment secondary for dds Primary school is where she would like to go and stay with her friends. We would be just out of offering distance.
- There is another secondary that I would like her to go to which we would get into and a handful of kids from her school do choose. My issue would be travelling - I'd have to take her and pick up as otherwise she'd have to get two buses. Due to where we live, I doubt many children nearby would go so it's not like she would have a travelling buddy. I work full time so I would have to adjust my hours slightly - they do have a homework club and various other activities until 4ish. I'd like her to go to this school but my concern is her not having local friends
- Another secondary that we would get into which is travellable, children nearby do attend. I'm kind of ok with it. A lot of girls from her sports clubs she attends would go so she would know a lot of other children already. She could also walk to those sports clubs after school.
There is a big BUT 🙈 her estranged father lives in that area. He doesn't see dd and she has been ok about it. My worry is that as she hits the more emotional teenage years, I worry she may bump into him and it might cause upset. Also she has half siblings that may attend there - that she doesn't see.
It would be a good School in terms of convenience but I think my anxiety would be through the roof.
So do I
A - move into catchment for School dd would like where her friends will go
B - move closer to my preferred school so that she has friends in the area.
This is weighing heavy on me at the moment as I'm a lone parent, decision is all with me. I just want her to be happy.