DS has parents evening next Tues and I need advice on how not to blow my top at his form tutor. He had an awful time at Primary school: Seven years of bullying (which was perpetuated by a teacher) and a battle to see an Ed Psych (suspected Dyslexia). He only really had one stable best friend in all his years at primary and it was a very sad and lonely time for him.
We made the decision to take him out of our LEA to go to another High School and this has been on the whole the best decision we could have made. He has surpassed his end of year expected level already bar one subject. He has made a group of friends and seems genuinely happy to go out to school. A marked change from a child of 11 who would cry and vomit before school run every day.
The only fly in this ointment seems to be his form tutor who he also has for Art. She has singled him out for parents evening, he is the only one out of his form she has demanded to see his parents. It has really upset him even though he knows mom and dad are on his side. He asked to see said teacher today and asked her why she had done this. She's told him that she's concerned about his concentration in class and thinks putting him on report would benefit him as he would be rewarded for good behaviour.
I'm not happy about this. Firstly because reports is a disciplinary procedure. Yes, he's chatty and doesn't listen all the time (his words) and yes this is not acceptable behaviour but it is not crime of the century either. He gets frustrated if things aren't perfect workwise and equates this to he will be in trouble like at Primary school.
His other teachers (bar one) made no other comment in his school reports about his concentration or being a distraction. The other teacher who had an issue, my son has asked to be moved to a different table and this seems to have worked.
She does not seem to see if there is any correlation between his "behaviour" versus lessons he finds just a little bit challenging. I feel that he needs to be motivated in some other way and she is behaving very negatively towards my son. Any ideas on how to tackle this? I would prefer not to go to his Head of Year as I prefer to say what problems I have with anyone to their faces. Especially in schools, I think communication between teachers tends to be on a need to know basis.
I would also like to add that his old LEA didn't recognise dyslexia as a learning difficulty and so testing wasn't offered. I also believe that his difficulty in concentrating stems from his fear of being wrong therefore opening his self up to ridicule which is one of the ways he was bullied. Any advice will be appreciated.
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coco1810 · 06/05/2016 21:07
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