I really hope someone can give me advice how I can help and support my dd.
She's in Year 10 at a selective girls' school. She's a bright girl but lacks confidence and doesn't think she's clever. She doesn't sit any GCSEs early so this year it's just internal exams. They start around 17th May and so far she's done very little work. She did an exam timetable on an app on her phone but already she isn't sticking to it and says it's not working.
I think she's really worried about things and this is stopping her from working. Her worries are two-fold: firstly it seems (to her) that 'all' our friends' dc are getting strings of A*s and As, and pretty much most of the girls at her school get mostly top grades. And secondly she is seeing life from now on as one long string of exams - Year 10 exams, mocks, GCSEs, A Levels, degree exams etc. She's looking at it as one long exam roller coaster that she can't get off.
I'm convinced that success at GCSE is largely due to hard work and I have told her this.
I have told her not to worry about any future exams for now, just to focus on the impending ones. I want her to do well in these as I think it will boost her confidence. But my worry is that she'll put her head in the sand and come out with average results which will then make her even more down about things.
The school is a good fit for her and we've had very good reports and parents' evenings since the start.
I don't know the right approach. At the moment I'm just trying to be supportive but I do nag her a bit as well. Should I be more heavy handed, e.g. impose a sanction if not enough revision is done? She really wants me to butt out and trust her to do enough. But if I can't see much work being done I need to step in don't I?
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Pressure of Year 10 exams, help please
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Dancergirl · 03/05/2016 23:15
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