Ds's end of year report has just dropped though the door. It's not great, and I'm starting to feel a bit frustrated with it all, so I need some advice to help me tackle this in a productive fashion, before he gets home and I just end up being shouty instead
I should say that he's only year 7, but it's his second year at the school because they had a 10+ intake. It's independent, and he's there on a bursary, the continuation of which is partly dependent on him maintaining an 'appropriate academic standard'.
The main issue is that he's not doing homework, or he is doing homework but doing it badly, or doing it and then not even handing it in. He has also performed poorly in end of year exams, putting him in the lowest quartile of the year for most subjects (including maths and science). He did a minimum of revision for these, despite my best efforts to engage and reward and encourage. He has been on 'monitoring' for a few weeks (has a form that needs to be signed after every lesson to highlight issues with participation and homework) but even that seems to have made no difference.
His report seems pretty balanced in that they are really encouraging of the stuff he's doing well (and all say he is a delightful chap!) but there's a very strong message coming through that he must do much, much better and get organised. I don't know how to help him do this.
I have always said that I don't expect him to be top of the class, but I absolutely do expect him to put the effort in. I'm wondering if I've made a mistake with the school? I am struggling a bit even with the bursary and tbh I can't help feeling a little fed up that I'm sacrificing stuff and he's making minimal to no effort. But I don't want to move him; it's a great school and he has opportunities there I could never hope to give him.
I don't want to end up getting cross with him. But I am beyond frustrated and worried that, even though it's only year 7, the bad habits are going to get ingrained.
Has anyone got any advice (or stories of lazy unmotivated boys coming good by GCSE?!)
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End of year report - how can I help ds improve these recurring issues?
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HeadMeetDesk · 01/07/2015 13:36
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