Have just found out that although my mum has said she has no money and can only send £5 each for ds and dsd birthday (next week)she is giving my sisters 2 children £10 each.(2 weeks time!) Am really annoyed at this. We do live 2 hours away but i dont think that should mean my children are treated as 2nd best. Should i confront my mum? We dont have the best relationship any way and she is always pleading poverty to me but accepts presents from us! Her birthday is on thursday and ive spent £30 on her present. Its not the amount just that its different from what she is giving her other grand children.
i wouldnt but i have same problem with my mum over my wedding she paid out in total£1000 for sis and so far £750 for brother for me £86 i am really annoyed but have decided to show her i dont need her money
im still angry about this and the more i think about it the more cross i get! Just cos mum and i dont get on should my children suffer? Its always been the same, sis got pregnant at 16 and mum was happy and bought her a really expensive pram, i got pregnant at 21 and mum said i was stupid and did nothing to help with the baby!
I know where you are coming from and how very hurtful and infuriating this is. It may help to see your mum as a bit peripheral to your main family, which is you dp and children. Well it helps me when my dad is being unfair (like leaving me out of discussions about mum's funeral/will)
Just so you know bonkerz, my comment about asking your mum why she treats you differently, was not intended to mean there may be a rational reason for this. I am just wondering whether discussing this with her might make her realise how unreasonable she is being. However, I can understand that some people are totally aware of their actions and drawing attention to the matter is just what they want.