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Do SAHMs have a better sex life than WOHMs?

(16 Posts)
Pruni Sun 03-Jul-05 07:03:04

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suzywong Sun 03-Jul-05 07:20:12

hold on before you start this, you need to re-phrase it;

differing expressions of frazzlement and knackerment

don't be comparative or this thing will definitely kick off

Slave2Babe Sun 03-Jul-05 07:26:46

hmmmmm can see this kicking off!

i work from home half the week and i'm in the office the other half.

i guess it all depends on what you do during the day which affects how 'knackered' and 'frazzled' you are.

quality time with dd wears me out! but so does my time in the office when we're all rushing around like headless chickens.

its too subjective to say which is more tiring.

everyone has different lifestyles and to a certain extent everyone has different stamina levels, etc.

having children is tiring!

WideWebWitch Sun 03-Jul-05 08:35:18

Pruni, is this a spoof thread? In case it's not I'll tell you what I think anyway: SAHMS are not necessarily less frazzled and knackered than WOHMs and WOHMs are not necessarily more frazzled and knackered than SAHMs, I don't tihnk it's possible to make such sweeping generalisiations because how knackered and frazzled a person is is dependent on so many things - how many children you have, whether they sleep, ever, how much money you have, your health, how much sleep you get, how happy you are, whether you like what you're doing (SAHMs and WOHMs), how healthily you eat, your relationship or lack of and how happy it makes you, your friendships and support network. And I could go on but you get the idea. I'd say there's no correlation between good/bad sex life and sah/woh tbh - countless surveys would like to prove causation and correlate all sorts of unrelated things but statistics and real life are far more complicated than that. I've been happy with my sex life as a sah and a woh but it had nothing to do with being one or the other and everything to do with all the other factors mentioned above and with my relationship.

WideWebWitch Sun 03-Jul-05 08:37:49

Also, I think you'll find some SAHMs resent the implication that their job is easier than that of a wohm! It's not an issue in our house simply because we both agree working outside the home is easier in our case and we both find being a sah more stressful and harder work than working outside the home. But that won't be the case for everyone, different things stress different people.

misdee Sun 03-Jul-05 08:40:27


Flamesparrow Sun 03-Jul-05 08:42:26

Ooh how rude!

Wonder how many posts this will get to of foot stamping and name calling??

jessicaandbumpsmummy Sun 03-Jul-05 08:45:25

Sex?! Whats that?!

Had my first dose last night in 2 months... and im a SAHM!

ggglimpopo Sun 03-Jul-05 09:05:18

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fostermum Sun 03-Jul-05 09:15:58

sex heard that word somewhere cant remember what it means though fill me in

triceratops Sun 03-Jul-05 09:21:23

Well if you are a SAHM you have access to the milkman/windowcleaner/gardener etc whereas if you work you have to make do with spotty nigel in the warehouse.

Fran1 Sun 03-Jul-05 09:24:17

I work part time and i look forward to working days as they are my break and my respite.

I am far less knackered after a days work (which is an actie job not just sat behind a desk all day), than i am on an active day scrubbing the house, rushing to get shopping, playing with dd and the list goes on ....

I think thats the thing isn't it. A job you get done. A day at home with the children and the household chores you can go on and on ... and forget to go and have your 15min tea break and your hours lunch!

ssd Sun 03-Jul-05 09:58:52

Good post, www. Entirely agree with you.

Flamesparrow Sun 03-Jul-05 10:01:21

Is anyone else just a really sleepy person???

I always need LOTS of sleep, but Psychomum can get by wih just a couple of hours (she does live on coffee a lot of the time).

I always feel like freak girl, but I just seem to naturally need to sleep more than any other human.

ssd Sun 03-Jul-05 10:06:01

Flamesparrow, I need a lot of sleep as well. Unfortunately both ds's don't and so I walk around knackered!

Flamesparrow Sun 03-Jul-05 10:07:41

I've not worked out how that happened with us too - both me and DH are fairly sleepy people, and we have the child who never sleeps!!!

"Newborns sleep for 20 hrs or so a day" I was told... we got about 6 hrs with her asleep, and she's stayed like it since!!

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