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Feeling very panicky, seeing solicitor today

(6 Posts)
WobblyWench Mon 09-Nov-09 08:47:49

Ex doesn't know I am filing for divorce, have just completed the forms for solicitor, and feeling so panicky, scared of his reaction. He has moved on with another partner (been split for 7 months, he met her after 4 months!) so there is no point in prolonging the inevitable.

No equity in house, but want him to provide for DD financially, so it's probably going to involve CSA, which he will be very pissed off about.

He only pays 200 towards maintenance, which is laughable, as this goes straight to the nursery to pay half her fees, so we get nothing in effect. He has headed the payment as maintenance when he transfers it and refuses to send to the nursery direct, so he looks like he is doing his part. (I can't work at the moment as had a serious accident last year and DD has always gone to nursery)

This is going to get nasty isn't it.

skihorse Mon 09-Nov-09 08:51:37

All I can offer in support is to say that you must try not to worry. You are now paying the solicitor to do the "worrying", you've placed that part in the control of someone who thrashes this stuff out for a living.

You're doing everything right and must try and not let yourself get wound up about it. You cannot control his response but the solicitor can now act as a buffer - which actually should reduce your stress.

Best of luck.

WobblyWench Mon 09-Nov-09 08:56:41

Thank you ski, I never saw it like that. So emotionally weak at the moment.

skihorse Mon 09-Nov-09 09:05:01

Oh we all need a "bodyguard" from time to time, it's just yours is wearing an expensive suit and went to Law school rather than looking like a Gorilla with a goatee! wink

WobblyWench Mon 09-Nov-09 09:06:48

haha - pmsl - you just described my ex lol

skihorse Mon 09-Nov-09 09:09:48


Well let him beat his chest and eat things he picks off his chest-hair - not your problem anymore!

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