My husband left me after about 6 months of not getting on 3 weeks ago. We have a 2.5 year old daughter and I then found out I was pregnant 5 days after he left. I have told him and whilst he seemed to have moved on pretty quickly from leaving us (although his main priority he assures me is being the best dad he can be (!)) the news that I was pregnant just floored him. He said all sorts of things like "I look at you and don't feel anything' and "I just don't love you any more" and "There is no us"... All pretty final stuff.....He wouldn't consider counselling as he "knows his feelings so there is no point'. He also said that he will support me in whatever decision I make re the baby but also that I have to make that decision on my own.
Yesterday he called me saying that he is missing our daughter so much and cannot imagine a life without her or only seeing her at weekends.... and is also beginning to see the consequences of what he has done rather than just focus on the bad relationship, so he actually thinks that counselling is a good idea for her and for us so we are going on Monday. I feel as if I should be happy at this minor breakthrough but also feel disheartened that its seems to be only because he misses our daughter. Does anyone have any good experiences of 'trying to work at it for the kids' and then ending up falling in love again or is it doomed to fail ?! Can I ever trust him again after all the things he has said ?
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seth · 04/11/2009 16:31
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