My dh is very ambitious and committed to his job. He recently got an incredible promotion but now has lots of demands on him and extra responsibilities. As a result, he now goes to work about 7.30/8am, comes home in time for bedtime at 7pm, eats dinner then starts working again. I actually don't know what time he finishes as he's always still working when I go to bed at 10.30. He also has to do quite a bit of travelling.
He never ever complains about the work but it's starting to get to me. He doesn't normally work during the day at weekends so we do family stuff then but we never get any time as a couple, never go to bed at the same time and even when we have a babysitter he's too busy to go out. I know we're lucky he has a job and without it we wouldn't have the lifestyle we have but it is really hard work atm. I just started a ft degree and am struggling with keeping it all together; utimately he brings in the money so my long-awaited course comes second but I'm determined to carry on. It feels like we're drifting apart and our quality of life is horrible.
I don't moan about it to him because I know he wouldn't do it unless he really had to but he admits that there is no end in sight and he will have to do these hours indefinitely; his dept is under threat and as the manager it rests on him.
Am I being really unfair? The dc still see him every day so that isn't really an issue.
Dh's dad had a nervous breakdown at 50 and had to retire early due to work stresses so I guess this is also a concern.
Does anyone have any tips?or words of wisdom? Should I just put up and shut up?
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My DH works non stop and its getting to me now
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Haylstones · 28/10/2009 14:34
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