I am off loading here but need to hear your thoughts.
Had a friend for 30 years- met my DH through her, she was my bridesmaid and is godmother to 1 of my DCs.
However, last week we had a phone "discussion" over a situation I have with over a relationship and she really gave it to me- went for the jugular. She was very judgemental, told me what she thought were home truths about me, and was very unsymapthetic - I almost ended the call crying, and I am not a softy! This was all, from her point of view, to try to stop me being hurt by a situation which had developed.
This is not the 1st time she has done this to me, and over the past couple of years she has lost 2 friends forever by being to brutal with her opinions.
On top of this, she has for a few years been very odd over present- giving; she is loaded- house worth £2 million, no kids of her own, very nice lifestyle. Money no issue- yet she has always treated my kids unequally. One gets a present at Xmas and birthdays( the one she is godmother to) the other doesn't. (I treat all my friends kids the same- one of my other friends has 3 kids, I am godmother to one of them but buy for all 3 at Xmas etc.)
She has also for some reason stopped buying me a present at Xmas or for my birthday- this happened a number of years back and I don't know why- I carrried on buying for her, but after a few years I stopped.
I know that buying gifts is not the basis of a friendship, but she just seems to be being mean when she can easily afford to be generous. I have plenty of other friends who I don't consider "best friends" and we buy for each other and our DCs.
To cap it all, her marriage has been in serious trouble for years but I have never told her what I think of HER behaviour in it all- or certainly not as much as I'd like to, as I think it would hurt her a lot.
I cannot imagine not being friends with her, but our last conversation hurt me so much- it was a bit of a character assassination of me, that I really don't want to talk to her- not for a good while anyway.
I am wondering if to write and tell her how I feel.
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psycho1 · 18/10/2009 09:27
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