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JJMAM · 17/10/2009 22:02

Not had sex since conceiving our DS almost 2 years ago!

hubby hasn't approached the issue and I don't know how.
All conversations now rotate around the boy or our work; evenings exist for playing, bathing, bedtime, cleaning/tidying, work then sleep - with a middle of the night wake up guaranteed.

We have a short break, just the 2 of us - in a couple of weeks. Hope we find something of the old us there - hope he shows some interest.

I don't know if I'm looking for answers or sympathy but just feel the need to get it off my chest.

Thank you for listening

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Gingemeeeklookatthatspider · 17/10/2009 22:05

Do you miss it? Do you still kiss and cuddle? It sounds like the break could be the answer. All I can say is you must both be very patient people.

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mrsboogie · 17/10/2009 22:06

do you have any thoughts on why this is the case?

was he present at the birth? was it traumatic?
was your previous sex life very focused on getting you pregnant?

I would be wary of expecting this break to reveal the "old" him, if there is something going on it might take more than that to get things sorted...

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lilacclaire · 18/10/2009 01:32

How was your sex life before?
Are you both reserved? Perhaps he is waiting for you to signal that your ready after the birth?