has anyone else never met one of their parents? in my case its my father but i didn't want to make it exclusively about dads because i guess mothers leave their children too.
my dad left when i was a baby, i didn't even know about him till i was 13 (but that is a whole other thread).
he has disappeared off the face of the planet...........no-one has seen or heard from him since the early 80's.
its rather strange not knowing if he is alive or dead, and my emotions about him are quite mixed up. i love him even though i have never met him, and don't really have any animosity towards him for leaving but at times i really rage about the fact that he abandoned me.........
i think i've mostly coped very well with the whole situation, but being 6 months pregnant i'm suddenly finding it very hard to understand how anyone could walk away from a child they had brought into this world...........especially a man who is considered by all who knew him to be a caring person. even my mum says he left and decided to go completely from my life for my benefit........he travelled a lot and said it was better he was just 'gone' than appearing in my life every three years or so.
i know his own family background is a very big factor in his absence but that conversation could keep Mumsnet going for months!!!!
is anyone else in a similar situation and if so how do you cope with it?
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moschops · 10/06/2005 16:26
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