I have known my friend for 13 years, we haven't always been in touch but when we have we are fast friends and she was a bridesmaid at my wedding.
When my DH left me a couple of months ago I was living overseas and very isolated. I left a couple of messages on her answerphone - nothing specific about my situation though.
I didn't hear from her for a while so in the end I sent a brief text on my situation. I got a text back along the lines of "well at least you can get on with your life"
I was very upset by this.
Some time later she emailed me asking how things were, I replied briefly saying I had been worried that I had not heard from her because I knew she had health problems so hoped she was okay.
Eventually I phoned her as I felt I was probably cutting off my nose to spite my face in not contacting her.
I told her I had been upset that she had not phoned me when she knew my situation and she said she had not phoned because she felt my text had been cold and emotionless and she didn't know how to deal with that.
Now if it was the other way around I would be straight on the phone to see if the other person was okay.
Since then I picked up an email she had sent before I called saying she had been poorly for a couple of weeks. So then I felt a bit bad because she had been ill.
But a bit of me just thinks we are on different paths at the moment. I saw her a couple of times a few months ago and each time I just felt we weren't in harmony (sounds cheesy but I can't express it any better) We still laughed about the same old things but some of the new things were out of synch. IYSWIM.
Anyway - yesterday I decided that I would leave things and leave it to her to contact me and today she sent a text. So not sure if I can be bothered to contact her again or not.
I kind of want to leave things for a while but the text today makes me think it would be rude not to respond as she is making an effort to contact me.
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Want to take a break from friendship but not sure if I am being fair
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sequinedsteaknife · 02/10/2009 18:56
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