DP not happy with me after I admitted that I never think about having sex - am never really in the mood although I enjoy it when we do but am not enthusiastic about the idea in advance.I don't tend to reject him if he initiates it but I don't ever come onto him. He thinks this must mean I don't fancy him, not interested etc wheras I just feel consumed by looking after kids etc and a lack of romance in our relationship. I wonder if this is why I'm not that interested - I never have time on my own - DP v occasionally looks after kids but I probably have a few hours off once a month. Would also like to go out with DP once in a while but the couple of times I've organised babysitting he's not been v enthusiastic and has not wanted to anything much - I'd really like to go out to eat so we can chat over dinner but he'd rather see a film. He reckons I'm expecting too much if I need to go out to get in the mood. If we don't go out we only have about an hour on our own after kids are in bed (we all eat together) and he says he's too tired to talk but apparently not too tired for sex which just makes me feel I'm only wanted for one thing. Am I being unreasonable to want a bit of attention other than having sex before I feel in the mood?
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DP not happy that I'm never in the mood for sex.
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Sprogstersmum · 21/09/2009 19:50
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