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40 year old toddler...

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piprabbit · 14/09/2009 21:17

My DH has just had, well I can only call it a tantrum.
He wanted to watch the TV but couldn't find the remote control....
Cue lots of shouting, and demands that I come and find it for him immediately.
I resolved situation by putting programme on terrestrial TV instead of digibox.
He is now happily watching programme, and I am fuming in the kitchen.

Anyone else coping with the terrible twos forties?

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5inthebed · 14/09/2009 21:19

I'd say 40minutes on the naughty step would be appropriate punishment for him, and no alcohol for a week.

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allaboutme · 14/09/2009 21:19

How bizarre.
Why dont you treat him in the same way you would a toddler? Ignore him while ranting and shouting and only help out when/if he asks nicely...

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piprabbit · 14/09/2009 21:22

pmsl at the naughty step 5inthebed.
Unfortunately if I ignore his behaviour the tantrum is likely to continue until the DCs are woken - and I do like my evenings to myself if possible.

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5inthebed · 14/09/2009 21:48

I often say I have 4 children instead of three, because DH can go on like a toddler.

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lilac21 · 14/09/2009 21:52

My almost ex used to hide the remote control because he didn't want it to go missing - bloody annoying when he was out, the kids were in bed and I couldn't watch what I wanted without changing channels on the sky box.

What is it with men and remote controls?

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hottiebear · 14/09/2009 21:59

Why don't you record him (on a dictaphone or something) and play it back to him? Or do something like in that advert where the child throws a tantrum in the supermarket and the mum starts throwing one too?
LOL at you both lying on the floor banging your arms and legs over a tv remote!

Is everything else ok in your relationship or is he as demanding and childish about other things? (Obviously you don't have to answer, just wondering.)

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silentcatastrophe · 14/09/2009 22:03

Remote control - it's a power tool

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mathanxiety · 15/09/2009 03:14

Seriously, though, does he do this often?

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thumbwitch · 15/09/2009 03:21

totally agree with the remote being a power tool - Boys Only. DH is such a control freak about the remote - has to have it to hand at all times, I am "not allowed" to have it for any length of time or he gets really antsy about it. Obviously I keep it to myself as much as possible!

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oopsiedoopsie · 15/09/2009 08:24

lock him in the bathroom

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Bannyfucket · 15/09/2009 08:28

My dp is very possesive about the remote too. He almost has a panic attack if lost! Men eh!

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Bucharest · 15/09/2009 08:30

Oh yes, remote controls are penis extensions are they not?
Mine fiddles incessantly with his, and gets all panicky attacky if I take it off him.
Wish I could just remove his willy and put that down the side of the sofa as well sometimes.

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Kally · 15/09/2009 10:08

My ex used to fall asleep on the sofa in his underwear, with the remote on his crown jewels. Then the kids would giggle and snort in whispers and dare each other to try picking it up off him without disturbing him. . I even found it in the car once...sad or what?

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piprabbit · 15/09/2009 14:53

Phew, not just us then.... thanks for all your messages.

He's basically a great guy, but when he's tired or stressed it seems like he can't keep up a mature front anymore and has to have a bit of a tantrum - perhaps as a release? Anyway he's apologised, and took my laughing at him in good humour so alls well until next time .

P.S laughing at idea of hiding willies down the side of the sofa - bit of a shock when you run your hand down the side in search of some loose change.

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