Hi
I have name changed as Iv figured out that I can search my usual nickname and all my mn posts comes up and dont want this to.
I have no one to talk to and right now I dont know what to do.
Backgroud - dd1 is 2 and dd2 is 4mo. After dd2 born things between DH and I were tricky - I accused him of having an affair with his pals wife which he swore was not true. Big arguments and he was going to walk out after saying he wasnt in love with me. Things worked out and we got on better. I asked him not to talk to this woman and he said ok but that him and her were pissed as me and her husband had both thought they were having an affair (I think iv been naive)
Week later she emails me saying nothing going on - hubby and I have another fight and he says he#s leaving for good. We talk, wwork things out and 9 weeks later things were going ok. We were happy and are going on holiday on monday.
Half an hour ago his phone went and he was supposed to be going out with a pal for a drive (I know the friend and he does this sometimes) he goes into the bedroom to talk. We were in the middle of watching a movie so after a few minutes I go through and the other person is talking and he says he will be a minute. It was a female voice and Im sure it was the best pals wife (they not friends anymore btw). I know I shouldn't have but I shut the door a little and listened in. I heard him talk a little and then say 'I wouldnt if I didnt care' some other things then 'I wont be black mailed' then he hangs up and catches me at the door. I know and am 100% it was a woman on the phone. Ok might not have been her but I know it was female. He swears it was the pal he was supposed to be going out with and I know he's lying.
He got mad that I was snooping and that I didnt trust him but I dont think I do. I asked him to tell me the truth and he said he was telling the truth. I never said it was her but just asked who she was. I asked him to show me his friends name on the caller id and he wouldnt. He deleted it. IIm being so stupid arent I? there is something going on isnt there?
He's away out and says he's going to get his friend to pick him up. I told him I knew what I heard and I know it wasnt the pal on the phone.
As he was leaving he tried to cuddle me and told me he loved me - when ever he is mad he never does this. I know he's lying.
What do I do? Do I let him in when he comes hoem? Do I leave when he comes home? Do I wake the kids and take them to my mums (5 min drive)
Do I wait till he gets in a talk? I really dont know what to do
Im so sorry its long and hope you got to the bottom of it.
I think I need to face reality.
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vcr85 · 29/08/2009 22:38
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