Finally stood strong to exH, I am hoping he might have finally got the message, but I seriously doubt it. He has meddled in my life for the last time without major consequenses. I think it is finally time I woke up and realised there is no friendliness in splitting up and I need to see a solicitor
Weeell, long story short - he left in Feb, we had a period of attempting reconcilliation he would not commit, so I said enough was enough, which was enough for him to regret his actions and tell me he was coming back - I said I was not an emotional punchbag for his convienience so NO.
This weekend would have been our 10th wedding anniversary so needing my space I decided O would have a weekend away by my self organised and paid for by me for me. I chose not to tell anyone where I was going(except on here) As I wanted my privacy as I don't get much in RL.
Tonight I find out he has trawled the internet, rung up hotels found out where I am staying and upgraded my room as " he had to mark the occasion" WTF our marriage is over and he needs to mark the occasion.
He got really knarked when I said he had tainted what I was trying to achieve.
Ended up in an all out war of words over divorce( which we had until now avoided much discussion of) and the house access to the DC and the House.
Great way to start my break - while he is looking after the DC.
Sounds like he may have moved on physically , but why would he still hassle you if he had totally moved on emotionally. Feel sad that I may never be rid of the pestering/emotional blackmail/ controlling behaviour
more worried about the threats he made tonight tbh. If I don't start divorce proceedings, He will continue this behaviour randomly, If I do start divorce proceedings, he will move back in as is his right( his name is still on the mortgage and he says he will not remove it unless I pay him all the equity he has in the house - I am currently living on benefits)
So sorry you're going through this. If he has moved out already I would have thought that set a precedent and he would find moving back in a dificult stance. Go to a solicitor the soonest you can and get the ball rolling.
I think you should have a chat with WOmen's Aid. That's fucking creepy stalker behaviour and totally unacceptable. Find out your legal rights etc, and make sure you have support in place. This man does not 'own' you. You have every right to end a relationship and be free of him. And if your children live in the family home, which I would presume they do, he is not entitled to force you and them out of it or to move back in when you don't want him there, no matter what the deeds of the mortgage say - OK so you couldn't throw him out and change the locks unless he was demonstrably abusive if he was still living there, but the fact that he moved out makes a difference.