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On my own

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fallingthrough Fri 21-Aug-09 21:59:35

My husband just stormed out of the house and I don't know what to do. He was going to come home at about 6ish so we could do an ASDA shop, we're only just back of holiday yesterday evening so we have no food at all in the house. So he went off to get his hair done then meet one of his mates for a quick drink. He rang me at 5:30 to say he'd be about an hour, then rang me again at 7:30 to say he was just leaving now then he rang again at 8:30 to say he was waiting for a cab and he got in about 9. It's not a massive crime in the scheme of things - but he does this every time he goes out with his friends, he rings me and says he's on his way back soon, he's just waiting for a cab, he'll be home in half an hour, whatever, and it's never true.

I'm pregnant right now (in my third trimester) and really hormonal, plus tired and jetlagged and when he rang me the third time I burst into tears after I put the phone down. I know its an over-reaction but I couldn't stop it, just all felt a bit much. He came in all tipsy and happy and I had obviously been crying...he asked me what was wrong, and I prefaced it all by saying I'm sorry and I'm tired and hormonal and explained why I was upset (I did start crying again but I couldn't help it) and he just got really angry. He denied it was a problem, denied he'd said he was coming home at any specific time and just escalated it to things like "Fine well I won't call you at all to tell you I'm coming home" "I'll always say I'm coming home at 11PM then I won't try and rush back" and he was just so bloody mean to me, twisted everything I said and then stormed out the front door. He kept saying that "Oh and I had a good time, thanks for asking". I followed and asked him where he was going, he said just out and I asked him to come back inside as I don't want to be arguing on the driveway. He did and I said I didn't understand why he was so angry with me, and why he was being like that. He said that it was because he had been in a really good mood and I had spoilt it, and when I tried to say something else he shouted some more things I can't even remember, actually rolled on the floor like a two year old having a tantrum. I told him he was behaving like a toddler and he stormed out the house again. I don't know where he's gone.

I don't know why I'm posting this it's just I have no one in a two hour radius that I can go to, I moved to this city to be with him and my friends are more the partners of his friends than my own IYSWIM and I really don't want to call any of them right now. I just feel awful and alone and I need a hug and I'm too proud to call my mum and cry. I just want to run away and I have nowhere to go. We've had similar major arguments like this before (not many, maybe 5 in the 4 years we've been together) but he's never stormed out before and he's always sorry and admits he's in the wrong the next day but I just feel so bleak and unhappy and I don't know what to do.

I've namechanged because I'm too proud to even admit to people on an internet forum that this has happened. And I can pretend it didn't happen in the morning, assuming he comes home.

lighthouse Fri 21-Aug-09 22:03:42

Drink can do some funny things

lighthouse Fri 21-Aug-09 22:05:28

Go bed hon and let him steam it out, don't try and talk to him now, speak to him when he has sobered up. Trust me on this one!

Mummywhereisyourwillie Fri 21-Aug-09 22:55:20

Is he back? I can understand why you are cross, I would be even without the third trimester pregnancy hormones!

MrsFlittersnoop Sat 22-Aug-09 00:04:21

He's pissed. What a twonk.

Don't take this personally - he'll sober up and come crawling back with a humungous hangover before long.

Go to bed with some comfort food and a good book, and be assured that you will have the moral high ground in the morning/for the rest of your pregnancy!

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