Men make me so angry - I am livid with mine at the minute

[Menarepains]

Aaaaaargh, I hate men at the minute and wish that I was single again, I'm sure I would be happier.

I have been feeling unwell for the last couple of days and went to the dox and they said that I was run down and needed lost of rest.

DH has a bad back, but won't go to the doctors, all he does is walk round complaining that it is hurting and playing the wounded soldier.

Today I have done 6 loads of washing and hung them all out, and tidied dd1's bedroom ready for her sleepover. I went back to bed this morning for half hour and he was in a right grumpy mood because of it, in the end I only stayed there 1/2 hour as he was making such a fuss.

It has just peed it down, torrential rain and he had the nerve to stand in the doorway whilst I was rushing to get it in watching me instead of coming out and giving me a hand. He then started complaining that he would get wet going to pick up dd1.

For the last couple of nights I have been going to bed early and both nights he has come upstairs and turned the tele on waking me up and proceeding to fall asleep 5 minutes after he puts the tele on. Then, when dd2 has woken the last couple of nights he hasn't woken up, but woken me by rolling on me or jabbing me with his elbows etc.

I asked him to put the dishwasher on this morning, to come down and find he hadn't moved, i did it myself to discover he had shoved a couple of plates from last night under the chair instead of picking them up.

Basically he has done NOTHING for the last few days and to top it off, whilst I was upstairs, I heard him to to dd2 'The sooner you start school the f*ing better' to which I shouted at him and he said that she is driving him round the bend, she was only asking for something on for her instead of the bloody horseracing ffs.

I feel absolutely worn out at the minute and he doesn't seem to care one iota, I feel like shouting at him to go to the dox instead of complaining, but I know he will say his usual 'But they won't be able to do anything'.

I know this might all sound a bit garbled, but I am sooooooooooooo bloody angry.

[compo]

I'm not surprised you are angry. I'm shocked at what he said to your poor dd

[Menarepains]

I know compo, I must admit I was disgusted, I shouted 'Oy I heard that' he just said that she was driving him round the bend.

[tamula]

bloody men eh?

They can be so self-centered and a right royal pain in th arse. Why is he behaving like this? I think you both need to discuss how your both feeling so that you can sort something out, because clearly something needs sorting!

Try to calm down and later discuss calmly without attacking him, sooner said then done i know! but do your best.

good luck x

[Menarepains]

I do, and he always seems to have the knack of turning things round on me or the kids.

[docket]

ugh, sounds as though he is being really selfish . could you go and stay somewhere for a few days where you would get help with your kids? would give you some breathing space and him some time to appreciate life's not so great when you aren't there to do everything?

[Mosschops30]

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[koalabear]

it is proven in most cases of back pain that actually getting off one's bottom and walking, hanging out washing, mowing the lawn, MOVING, swimming, walking the dog, doing the shopping (anything but watching the TV) actually helps the pain (having broken my back and spent 6 months not being able to walk, i know what i'm talking about)

therefore, with your DH, if he wants to get better, he should get off his bottom - if he doesn't want to go to the doctor, i would treat him as if nothing is wrong, and that he is just being lazy

sorry for being so harsh, but i feel very strongly that people with general back problems (and I'm NOT talking about chronic illness or injury) need to complain less and do something about to help themselves, especially as his behaviour is not helping himself, helping you, or helping your child

[bonym]

Agree with Mosschops I'm afraid. My ex-h was a bit like this (bone idle - would rather leave dd1 in a dirty nappy than change it - expected me to do everything and almost every other word was f*)hence he's now ex. Don't know why I married him in the first place. Current dh is a complete darling and couldn't be more different - there are some lovely men out there, why put up with less-than-lovely one?

[mytwopenceworth]

idle sod. if i were you i would go on strike. wash only yours and kids clothes, cook for only you and kids, do nothing for him at all. that'd show the bugger!!!!!!!

[Menarepains]

Beleive me, I wish I could go on strike, but the house would go to rack and ruin and I can't stand that.

I am much happier when he is at work, as there is less mess, not as much washing up etc, but, on the other side when he does come home, he is such a grumpy git i feel like smacking him one

[bossykate]

"...wish that I was single again, I'm sure I would be happier..."

sorry, but imho, you would be. i just couldn't stand this and i don't blame you for being angry.