This is a follow up thread to one earlier in the week. Hope thats not a thread about a thread!
Basically, on Sunday my MIL left my dds in the house alone while she went to the shop - she was gone 15 mins but I came back to her house after she had been gone for 5 and found them alone, with the cooker on, in the house (MIL had taken 7yo ds with her, left 9 and 5 yo dds in the house alone).
I was furious, and so was dh (probably more then me!) but we didn't get a chance to chat to her then as BIL and family turned up and were still there when we left to go home (had been staying for weekend).
I don't want another discussion about whether or not it was 'right' for her to do this, for us, our girls, the younger of whom has physical SN, this was NOT ok!
So last night, dh called his mother to tell her we were upset about it, and ask her not to do so again. It is hard to think how it could have gone worse.
She thinks she did nothing wrong, she was "only trying to do the best for the family" (at the shop buying icecreams for after lunch an hour before lunch with dh and I due home any minute), she doesn't understand why dh "is always shouting at her about the kids" (dh never shouts, and the only other time he challenged her about childcare was when she thought it was OK to let ds go on a quad bike with no helmet at her friends farm).
And of course, the ultimate "did weegie put you up to this?". Yes. Its my fault.
In the end she said "i have to go" and hung up on him.
SHe asked dh if he trusted her with the kids, and the silly, silly man said 'yes'. I don't trust her at all, and neither does he, but he said he just couldn't bear to make the crying and "but I was only doing it for the best" worse.
Now I am terrified she will phone ... luckily I have caller display so will not answer, but I can't get my head round the fact that even if she thinks she did nothing wrong, she can't accept that as parents we think she did.
She never apologised either.
Anyway, I feel better for saying it all, even if noone has a response!!!
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weegiemum · 13/08/2009 17:13
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