Been married for many years, not always happily. DH has a drink problem but won't admit it to himself or anyone else. I attended an Al Anon meeting once last month and found it helpful, but haven't managed to go again.
Have caught DH out in many lies in the past but he always manages to make it my fault that he's lied
I've had suspicions about a woman he works with for some time now and started checking his phone bill. Every time he goes out, he calls her immediately. He went to a stag do a few weeks ago and this happened. During the evening he made several calls to the friend he'd told me he was with, so presumably that was the cover story.
Last night he was going for a drink with some friends. The phone call to her happened as usual and he then withdrew money from a cash machine in a town in the opposite direction to where he said he went.
I need to sort this out but I'm worried it's going to be the same old excuses. I think perhaps I want him to go (23rd anniversary next week ) as I can't take much more of the lying, drink and debt.
I've never met anyone he works with - he's always kept me separate from his friends and we only socialise with my friends and their husbands.
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ADifferentMe · 13/08/2009 15:33
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