I think I can handle her but she has such an effect on me. To cut a long story short abused by my dad as a child, parents had bad relationship, divorced, etc. I went to police as a teen after had left home and young stepsis told her mum what had been goign on with her. My mum confided in my sis that she had suspected he was like that (but continued to live in denial/cuckoo land with her 3 DDs).
She is (and always has been) depressed, emotionally draining, manipulative, needy, naiive, and a bit useless. I try to limit my time with her, sometimes see her on a weekend at hers, and sometimes invite her here for tea. But when I have seen her I just feel drained, and sad, and angry. Sometimes let her have DS as they adore each other, but have to take food for him as she never has anything in, or nothing appropriate, he usually comes home tired and hungry.
Sometimes she can be supportive, other times is too self involved, or will say can't help in a certain way and then will change her mind. I got rid of my home phone when I was culling bills and the main incentive was my mum wouldn't be able to call me and keep me on the phone for hours on end (in a one sided conversation all about her). However she now emails me instead. {sigh}
Obviously I have no contact with my dad, and also feel like I don't have a 'real' mum either. DP gets frustrated as he says I don't put up with from anyone but my mum really gets under my skin and upsets me. Sometimes I think I just houldn't bother as one of my sisters does but I can't bring myself to do it.
Thanks for reading if you got this far, feels god to get it off my chest!
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SammyK · 13/08/2009 00:11
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