I have been with my partner for 12 years (since I was 18!) and we have two, much cherished young children. DH does not cope very well with life, he is depressed and angry because of issues rooting back to his childhood. These issues have from time to time taken over our relationship but over the past few months his dark mood has totally taken over our family life. He is very rude to me, forever criticising me and has becoming quite controlling.
I have a very supportive family and I really love spending time with them. They live about 30 miles away and as I don?t drive I have always been dependent on DH driving me to see them. This year he has refused to take me. If they come to see me he makes my life a misery, questioning why they have to visit and generally treating my like dirt. Things exploded this week after I spent the day with my dad. DH admitted that he is jealous of my family because he has little contact with his own and that if my Dad visits again he will refuse to open the door! I know this is obviously totally unacceptable. DH needs counselling to deal with his issues but refuses to. His solution is to leave me and the kids instead!
Part of me is relieved that he wants to go, as he is making me so miserable. He has totally worn me out over recent years and I have had enough. I hate the way he talks to me, I am forever walking on egg shells just waiting for the next torrent of abuse to come my way. I have given up shouting back as I don?t want to upset the kids. He has always been a very good father but recently his bad moods have ended upsetting the kids and I feel that my older child is very confused by his inconsistency.
Although I know the relationship is over I am so frightened by all the practical issues. I am financially dependent on my DH and just cannot see how I can live independently from him. We live in a rented house and I have n one else to look after the kids when I work in the evenings.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation?
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My partner has decided to leave, advice please!
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toodizzyizzy · 08/08/2009 12:37
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