DH and I have been married for 5 years, together 10. We both have good jobs, are doing fine blah blah.
I have wanted to start TTC for well over a year now. In January 2008 he asked me to give him until September that year to just enjoy ourselves and get established (we had just moved to Aus from the UK).
I said fine.
Well, it's now nearly September 2009.
In March, out of the blue he said that I should come off the pill and we would leave it in the hands of fate (his words). This suited me fine.
Then last night we were chatting and he said the idea of a baby makes him feel like a "big hand is pushing him towards a cliff".
But then went onto say a load of crap (I was semi blubbing by this point so didn't take much of it in) about how he has faced his fears before etc.
So really - is he just being a scared man who doesn't want anything to change, or is this some fundamental problem?
Everything else between us is great - maybe too good as he has said before "what if it changes us" - he fears us turning into Mr and Mrs Boring.
As more back story info, we moved from Sydney to Adelaide in December as DH was relocated. We are hoping to probably move back to Sydney in Mayish next year (job market depending). So we have moved around A LOT.
I think he is being really rather selfish, but equally, it's important to me that he actually wants a child.
And then the other part thinks that he will love him/her when/if it happens so maybe we should stop overthinking it.
Thoughts?
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Ozziegirly · 31/07/2009 01:25
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