im a regular but have name changed. me and dp been together for a good few years now. he is very private person
but today from a member of the family found out that dp's eldest from a previous
relationship isn't his biological child but he's brought him up as his own as his son's real dad died when he was young.
i feel so angry and really quite hurt that he has never told me himself. when i have tried to do the maths with his age etc to work out how old he was when he had each of his kids its always not made complete sense in my head, but just accepted that i had my info wrong - these are conversations that i have actually had with him so he's basically lied to me instead of using these opportunities to tell me.
it would never have been something that i would of thought twice about other than maybe a new found admiration for him. but now, i feel really angry and hurt that he has never told me. its by no means a secret and all the family/friends know and thats why this person that let it slip did so because she dropped it into a related conversation as she thought i would have known.
am i right to feel this way? i can understand that it may be soemthing particularly sensitive to talk about, especially to a stranger etc, but surely he could have told me - his long term girlfriend who he's known for 9 years.
just feel really sad about it. his ds in question is now 16 years old
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found out today NOT from dp that his eldest isn't actually his biological son
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howshouldifeel · 23/07/2009 16:04
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