I have just found out that DP has brought himself a new fancy playstation thing on ebay for a grand total of £180. This follows a recent problem where he ordered another one of these and was conned. He has not recieved the money back yet if at all.
He is awful with his money and is in about 15,000 worth of debt (this is someone who did not attend uni) and I believe he is making it worse all the time. We have recently moved house, I paid all the excess, he paid for the overlap in rent - but - put the rent for the month (750) on his credit card. He has not paid this off.
He has been learning to drive, failed his test this week and it only hit me then that he must have been paying a bomb for all his lessons, he has been having lots. So he won't be able to afford to pay his credit card off - definately not after this latest purchase.
I've been on maternity leave since October, and need to go back to work now really. I have not had a penny off him in all this time and have continued to pay the same share of the bills as I would have done was I working full time. The house move was not wanted by us and not budgeted for. I have had to increase my loan, and am stuggling now. And then I find he is buying himself things like this. Not only that, he has set up a whole new email for this transaction to take place - I saw it over his shoulder earlier.
He is going to get himself in more debt for a car. All his and my family agree that he does not need a car. We live in London, with good transport, and he gets free travel. Not only is he insistant that he get a car, he wants to get a new one. He has no savings, so the only way to do this is to get in more debt. He will not listen to my reasoning.
He has offered to get a joint bank account but frankly the thought scares me. He needs to have someone be in charge of his money - IMO. He just can't help himself. He thinks he deserves 'treats', Ok, so perhaps every so often, to an etent - but 180 pounds worth? If we had it all in one place, how could I definately know that he would not spend the whole lot? I know I can't but I really feel I would like to somehow take control of the situation. We will never be able to afford a house if this continues. He has a son now, he has to stop spending all his money on himself -dosen't he?
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I am fuming! What can I do about DP's spending?
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Flossam · 19/05/2005 23:09
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