Such a long story-not sure where to start!
Short version-my dad had an affair and left my mum 12yrs ago (I was 15) He is still with the same woman. My mum has not got over it/moved on or anything-in fact I think she is getting worse. My sister is getting married in december and this has brought up a lot of issues. My sis doesn't really like the other woman so is not inviting her to come (upsetting my dad-who is paying for most of the wedding-but making my mum happy. Dad is being very good about it)
Anyway-that is all up to her but Dp and I would like to get married (been together for 7yrs DC2 on the way) but it is all so difficult as I would invite the other woman. My mum knows this and now spends her time saying she'd rather dp and I jut went off to another country on our own and got married as she'd rather not be there than be there with the other woman (and my dad).
She is so excited about my sisters wedding. So I'm supposed to have NO family at my wedding?!
As time goes on I'm actually getting more and more angry at my mum for the whole situation-i just wish she'd move on. It has been 12yrs FFS. I know it wasn't her fault and she wasn't the one who left-but how long can she keep all this stuff festering inside her.
How could I go off without my family and get married? Plus we'd then have to not invite DP's family. We'd like to get married in another country with a small number of friends AND family. How could we do it without the family as well.
It is just such a crap situation. Not helped by going to a friends gorgeous wedding on sat and being 28wks pg
Ho hum-just feeling sorry for myself-tell me to pull myself together! Should also point out that I always try to please everyone and feel guilty about things easily!
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sammysam · 06/07/2009 09:15
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