IT's just going on and on, and has been for months. The worst thing is that opportunities keep appearing to come up, only to come to nothing. He's just trying to put together a series of unpaid projects to keep his CV up, but I have no hope that any of them is going to lead to a permanent job.
Oh, wait - that isn't the worst thing! The worst thing is that it's impossible for me to express my own stress and worry and frustration about the situation because I don't want to load that on him. He has fragile confidence about this anyway, despite being very confident in all other areas, and I know it's only going to make the situation worse for him (and therefore for us) if I have a bit of a meltdown and let him know how worried I am about it.
We're living off my earnings but I'm self-employed and they're patchy at times. Plus I did want to think about the idea of having a DC at some point in the not-too-distant future and all I can think about right now is how the hell we could do that if he's still looking for work and I'm the main (sporadic) earner.
It just feels like all our plans, along with our savings, are going up in smoke. We'd always planned to move out of our tiny flat by now, to think about starting a family... all we're thinking about now is how to get him a job. There doesn't seem to be any light at the end of the tunnel. I know things could be so much worse - we have a terrific marriage, our health... but this is very hard. I feel like I have nobody to turn to over this.
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So tired of living under the cloud of DH's unemployment :(
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emeraldgirl1 · 03/07/2009 11:16
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