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(26 Posts)
mastersandjohnson Fri 26-Jun-09 19:59:21

not sure if this is the right place- maybe should also post in Health..

namechanger regular....

Some of my friends and I feel( or rather don't!) that we do not really get anything out of actual penetration- though we like foreplay and lots of clitoral play.

It's not down to slackness or lack of tone ( one friend has no DCs).

I have never orgasmed through penetration ( evidently most women don't and, even if they say they do, it is because their clits are being stimulated at the same time.)

I don't find penetration unpleasant, but I certainly don't get anything like as much pleasure out of it as my partner.

IS this just me and if you are like this too, or were, can you suggest anything to increase the pleasure?

islandlassie Fri 26-Jun-09 20:03:30

Oh wow i thought something was wrong with me because i dont orgasm from pentration although i do from clit fun!!

mastersandjohnson Fri 26-Jun-09 20:06:58

no, not pervy details- just how do others find it- sometimes I really think I am thinking of England.

mastersandjohnson Fri 26-Jun-09 20:10:24

sorry IL- have posted on health too and got posts mixed.

islandlassie Fri 26-Jun-09 20:11:10

pervy details?

islandlassie Fri 26-Jun-09 20:11:25

oh ok

imaynotbeperfectbutimokmummy Fri 26-Jun-09 20:42:07

i dont orgasm from penetration. I never have. But i still enjoy it. I often find that after orgasm i like him to "do me". Penetration for me isn't about orgasm - i just like the feel of him inside me. You could always help things along a little youserlf, iyswim, or make sure you get your orgasm before penetration. TBH sex isn't always about me "getting off". Sometimes i like sex just for sex and i dont need to cum. If i need to, i make sure i do, or make him make sure. That is why god invented the rabbit!

Ug Fri 26-Jun-09 20:43:46

Does position make any difference to you?

For eg when he penetrates from behind....

mastersandjohnson Fri 26-Jun-09 20:47:14

Ug- no difference....smile

mastersandjohnson Fri 26-Jun-09 20:50:50

I know it's not essential to orgasm that way- and I know he can stimulate me in other ways at the same time, but I often feel inadequate as if I should be enjoying penetration more....when maybe it's a myth and most women don't!

MsSpentYouth Fri 26-Jun-09 20:51:38

I can only orgasm during penetration if i am on top blush

But then I grind on his pelvic bone when i do that, so it's still from clit stim

I have orgasmed once without clit stim, and that was just after we had researched on the internet about how to orgasm through g-spot stimutlation, which made me orgasm quite quickly, but have never been able to do it again hmm

I like penetration because it still feels great and it gets me horny when they are enjoying themselves, although it is better when the stim my clit at the same time (I am saying this generally because I have been single for 9 months and have only just met a new men)

Try going on top, your DP will love it when you take charge and you might be suprised with how good it feels, also makes the most out of the length IYSWIM wink

MsSpentYouth Fri 26-Jun-09 20:52:25

OMG, I can't believe i didn't namechange for that blush

OrmIrian Fri 26-Jun-09 20:52:33

Oh yes master. I know that sneaking feeling of inadequacy grin Thank De Beauvoir for that one hmm

foofi Fri 26-Jun-09 20:57:29

Penetration does it for me grin

mastersandjohnson Fri 26-Jun-09 21:07:12

foofi- but does it? I am so jealous! I have been researching and what "they" say is that the clit is much bigger and deeper than anyone realises, so some women who think they are orgasming vaginally aren't.

RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion Fri 26-Jun-09 21:09:37

Message withdrawn

foofi Fri 26-Jun-09 21:12:12

Reality - I can do that too! Yes, mastersandjohnson - I'm sure position helps.

mastersandjohnson Fri 26-Jun-09 21:15:56

Reality and Foofi- you're right- you are weird. smile

falafel Fri 26-Jun-09 21:37:40

I've done that once, intense! I used to regularly cum on top (with my last partner shock) never with this one! sad but yes, definately grinding action / clit stimulation that did it! I've never come with penetration alone but like most others here LOVE it despite that wink Never got anything out of missionary, am I doing something wrong? just does nothing for me but there are plenty of others that do (yay!)

imaynotbeperfectbutimokmummy Fri 26-Jun-09 21:57:51

envy reality and foofi

SomeGuy Sat 27-Jun-09 00:58:32

Bought some Vielle 'stimulating gel' for DW to apply prior to sex (from Superdrug; Durex do a similar product but it costs much more). It worked, once.

Need more practice. Too hot for shagging ATM though.

DollyPardonme Sat 27-Jun-09 01:04:36

f**k

I can't remember

SomeGuy Sat 27-Jun-09 01:07:05

Vielle:

www.boots.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?langId=-1&storeId=10052&catalogId=11051&produ ctId=24901

Durex Play O:

www.boots.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?categoryParentId=3887&storeId=10052&productId =124998&callingViewName=&categoryId=4134&langId=-1&catalogId=11051

SomeGuy Sat 27-Jun-09 01:11:21

Also you might want to look at the coital alignment technique position, which is a sort of grinding/pelvis thrusting position

See
www.myprimetime.com/health/sex_love/content/worlds_greatest_position/index1.shtml
also
www.ehow.com/how_2262492_coital-alignment-technique-cat-position.html

TheYearOfTheCatMPADist Sat 27-Jun-09 01:20:38

Someone on here once mentioned a cock-ring clit basher device, which I've heard can be quite effective.

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