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Sick of DP ripping the piss out of my stuff

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BurntPages Fri 12-Jun-09 13:50:58

I am in the process of moving into DP's house and he has been "helping" me sort stuff out.

I'm annoyed though because he has not stopped ripping the piss out of my possessions since we started. He constantly complains about the house itself, saying it's dirty, dusty, mouldy, in a crap area etc etc but then he starts on my actual belongings.

For instance he was having a car boot sale and asked if I had anything I wanted selling. I made a box up of stuff I needed rid of and he pulled a face, laughed and said "err ... I wouldn't expect much for this lot if I were you". And then he kept going on about how my carboot stuff would probably need to be binned.

Yesterday he was laughing at my sofa. I am trying to sell it and he kept laughing at saying stuff like "lets be fair, would YOU buy that?? I mean ... personally I think £20 is too much for it, never mind £40" sad there is nothing wrong with it.

Today it was my bed: "I'd put your bed in the paper but I don't think you'd get anything for it ... I mean ... (laughs) ... I wouldn't buy that, personally" again, IMO there is nothing wrong with it.

The one that really pissed me off was that he held up an old tea-towel at my house and said "oh gross! how disgusting, that can be binned". I said "no, my mum bought me that years ago, I'm keeping it" so he laughed and said "you're joking? it's gross! it has holes in!" he then took it back to his house, held it up and encouraged his daughter to have a good laugh at it too.

I've just been sorting through my christmas decorations and he held one thing up and said "That can go in the bin? surely ... it's corny, I hate stuff like that"

I'm pissed off. His house is hardly a fucking palace ... he wears clothes with holes in yet he rips the piss out of a holy tea-towel? He had posters of dragons and unicorns on his bedroom wall yet he rips the piss out of a father christmas card holder??

What is his problem? is he trying to chip away at my confidence or what?

RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion Fri 12-Jun-09 13:51:56

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fuzzywuzzy Fri 12-Jun-09 13:53:04

and you're moving in with him because?????

OhBling Fri 12-Jun-09 13:53:28

You're moving in with this man (I assume for the first time) and he's taking the piss? Umm, maybe this is not something you should be doing.

Moving in together is filled with moments where one of you thinks, "WTF? He/she wants to keep that? Is he/she F* crazy", but this sounds extreme.

So either talk to him - perhaps he has an issue with you moving in - or re-examine things. This should be FUN.

3littlefrogs Fri 12-Jun-09 13:53:52

Why are you with this man????

Sheeta Fri 12-Jun-09 13:53:52

'posters of dragons and unicorns '



he's being a bit of an arse though, especially encouraging his daughter to laugh at you hmm

Doodle2u Fri 12-Jun-09 13:54:09

Leave him.

OhBling Fri 12-Jun-09 13:54:14

Reality - what am I missing?

Tortington Fri 12-Jun-09 13:55:17

you have done this already - what more can we say to you?

why are you moving in with him - he is clearly twat

RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion Fri 12-Jun-09 13:55:48

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RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion Fri 12-Jun-09 13:56:33

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OhBling Fri 12-Jun-09 13:58:33

Aaah, mymittens style. Got it.

beanieb Fri 12-Jun-09 13:58:35

did you post about this before? You're still moving in with him?

Tidey Fri 12-Jun-09 13:59:41

Is this the same chap who got his daughter to mock you about your ornaments every time you walked into a room? If so, for goodness sake, DON'T MOVE IN WITH HIM. Next it'll be your clothes, your body, your personailty and anything else he can think of that he'll try to criticize and you'll end up feeling like crap. He really doesn't sound like he's worth the effort.

GypsyMoth Fri 12-Jun-09 14:12:06

You've been told what we all think.

This isn't going to be happily ever after

poshwellies Fri 12-Jun-09 14:19:51


LadyGlencoraPalliser Fri 12-Jun-09 14:31:25

Oh dear god, how many people have to tell you. He is an arse. You are a fool.
From the sounds of your posts he doesn't respect you and you don't like him. It is not a good basis for any relationship, especially with three children involved.
Dozens of posters have told you this over the course of weeks and weeks and you are still not listening are you?

screamingabdab Fri 12-Jun-09 14:35:51

Reality Bless your addiction to MN excellent memory. I remembered the threads, but not the name.

PM73 Fri 12-Jun-09 16:05:35

Is this the same op who was asking advice about her dp keeping hold of his ex's bookcase? Or am i completely wrong?

screamingabdab Fri 12-Jun-09 16:07:18

OH, yeah, I remember that one

PM73 Fri 12-Jun-09 16:09:19

Wasn't his ex using the dp's washing machine as well?

screamingabdab Fri 12-Jun-09 16:12:33

Dunno, but I remember that one as well.

I think the OP has name-changed

Heated Fri 12-Jun-09 16:25:47

is this the start of an abusive relationship?

If this is you, then you already know the answer. You're not going to get anyone posting different to what you secretly already know. I feel very sorry for your ds.

If this isn't you, you two ought to get together and compare notes.

dizietsma Fri 12-Jun-09 17:11:52


We aren't going to change our advice. You clearly have decided that you are going to continue this abusive relationship. What more is there to say?

It's the kids I feel the most for in this situation sad

Alibabaandthe40nappies Fri 12-Jun-09 17:16:50

Is it the same as the one who has already moved in with her P - and he made his own daughter bacon and eggs but fed her boys super noodles?

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