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elsmummy · 05/06/2009 19:59

Relationship not very good with partner but had crossed words tonight, I am running the Race for Life tomorrow and he said "When you have finished your race don't bother coming back, with a bit of luck you'll have a heart attack and die"!. I had no response to this as I was in complete shock ( also said it in front of my 6 year old DS!. Not really looking for advice but just wanted some opinions to help get my head raound what he just said!.

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bigTillyMint · 05/06/2009 20:00

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shootfromthehip · 05/06/2009 20:00

Sorry but what a prick. I'd pack a bag... for him.

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lilacclaire · 05/06/2009 20:03

Very harsh, even I wouldn't go that far and I can be nasty!

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twoclimbingboys · 05/06/2009 20:06

extra shocked at it being said in front of your DS .

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blinder · 05/06/2009 20:15

he doesn't deserve you
he doesn't deserve your son
he doesn't deserve to be at your home

you and your son don't deserve that sort of abuse either (and it IS abuse of your son unfortunately).

personally, I would change the locks the next time he goes out and have no sympathy for him whatsoever.

Good luck with the race btw !

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FabulousBakerGirl · 05/06/2009 20:17

You want opinions to get your head around what he said?

Why?

If he was being serious I would definitely be packing for him, now.

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junglist1 · 05/06/2009 20:19

Is he normally abusive? If so, this could be a sabotage attempt. If not, he's completely out of order!! What are you going to do? What a hurtful thing to say, my P is an abuser and has told me to jump off bridges etc.

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helsbels4 · 05/06/2009 20:24

What a charmer What on earth did you argue about to make him say something like that to you and in front of your little ds?!

Do you own/rent your home together? I would be seriously wondering where this relationship was going if I were you.

Good luck and well done you for taking part in the Race For Life

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shhhh · 05/06/2009 23:00

was it not said "tongue in cheek"..?

IMO just sound like a silly comment said during a silly argument...
Dh & I have the odd argument and tbh we do say stupid things to each other. AND obviously stupid thing that we don't want to happen to each other BUT sometimes things are said before you think...

reminds me of PINK'S! lyrics:

"can't you tell that this is all just a contest
The one that wins will be the one that hits the hardest
But baby I don't mean it"

I would speak to him once you have both calmed dwon. x