Okay, a quick background, I was raised in a traditional Indian home where education, education, education was shoved down our throats with a good dose of religion for afters, and you had to marry a doctor, lawyer or an Indian Chief (last one is a joke). Cut a long story short I made a bid for freedom and have had little contact with my family for the last 12 years.
For the last 2years I have re-established my relationship with my family and my parents have accepted I married an English guy and have been great with our 3 kids.
My brother did the whole traditional Indian thing and had the big fat Indian wedding and married the nice Indian girl.
The problem I now have is that my SIL is causing a divide in our family between my brother and my mum and my brother and me.
I have found my SIL is an insecure, immature princess and I always find I am walking on egg shells around her, so I don't offend her so she doesn't have a slanging match with my brother. My brother and I have always had a great relationship and we stayed in contact and saw each other despite the fact that I was the black sheep of the family.
Some remarks my SIL has made remarks border on being racist, such as comments to me about me marrying outside the class, caste, ethnic background. About my children not being pure blood etc etc.
Things with her are so bad that even my dad comment that my husband has fitted into this family better than she has.
As they have a small house I offered her our house if she wanted to have my brother's birthday here - the email she sent me I cannot even copy and paste here it's so rude.
I promised my brother I wouldn't say anything to her but now I feel I need to address her email without being a bitch back.
I know I waffled and I don't think many people are going to understand what I am on about. But thanks for listening.
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Walking on egg shells around my S-In-L - Asian/indian thing - could be long winded
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EastvWest · 02/06/2009 13:00
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