I am looking for some advice regarding my wife. I know she has used this site in the past, not sure if she still does.
I'm wondering what to do if I should involve myself in her business or not.
She has been training with karate since before I knew her and has a date set for taking her black belt exam on 7th Jan. She desperately doesn't want to do it. She has suffered illnesses a lot over the past few months and instead of training three times a week as normal she has only been going about once a week. She is stressed out about other stuff, still not fully well and this is getting her down. Reason I'm wondering whether to interfere or not is because her instructor is not sympathetic at all and is really getting on at her. If she doesn't turn up for training he actually phones her up and asks why and has a go at her. She mentioned to him that she didn't feel ready to take this grade and he went off on one saying she was doing it because it was all arranged, they've had to book a venue specifically or something and he's not the one grading her, another bloke is and her instructor keeps telling her how this bloke will get on at her even more than he does.
The grading takes a full day with a theory exam and a full day of physical. I have seen her cry over this but she seems scared of her instructor. She won't tell him and stand up for herself.
I want to phone him (or go around to his house) to tell him to lay off her and to explain how upset she is. I would if it was anyone else making her so upset but the problems are she is very independant and will probably be mortified and embarrassed if I did. Also I don't know how the bloke would react or if it would ruin her relationship with the club (which is something she really wouldn't thank me for). I'd like advice from male and female on this, what can or should I do to help her?
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DogDArmour · 30/12/2008 10:21
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