For those that know this will be familar, for those that don't to be brief my "d" mother is extremely needy. She's spent my entire life controlling me and I've finally broken free - phew.
So on with the request. Its dd1's 5th birthday on Wednesday. Tomorrow we are travelling from London to Portsmouth to stay with friends to release tension (for the kids) because dh has a checkup operation on Tuesday to see if this round of chemotherapy has put his bladder cancer back into remission. Both dh and I are tense. On top of this we're all recovering from nasty bugs (I'm on antibs for flu/chest infection - horrible ). We hope to come home Tuesday night so that dd1 can go to school on Wednesday on her birthday (have just spent last 3 hours making cake because I'm some kind of really stupid sadist who likes doing this sort of thing when I have a temp of 39.5 and hacking cough - guilt trip so don't go there had lecture from dh already ).
"d"m has just returned from 10 days in Florida. She wants to have both girls next Saturday. I don't want her to have them because I'm desperate to spend as much time with the girls as possible. Dh feels the same way. dd1's party is Sunday and "d"m has been invited but refused as she's working. When I turn her down she is going to tell me that I'm selfish and am punishing her on purpose. Am I? There is always a small desire to do so but most of me wants to be the adult here as she has never been capable of such a role. Both dd's are going to my dms on Thursday after school but she does not think this is enough.
Should I simply have a stifer lip?
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Reality Check needed - am I being horrible to my "d"m
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Wills · 06/03/2005 21:53
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