I can take it if I am! I need to get some perspective.
DH works hard, he is a workoholic. He very much defines himself by his job. And his job comes before everything else.
We have 3 kids I work hard running the home and looking after the kids. I'm also 'there' for DH. I listen to his work woes, I'm always on the end of the phone if he needs anything. All he has to do every day is get up and go to work. I don't mind that at all, I'm at home thus it's logical for me to do the at home stuff.
Here is what I do mind. I resent being sent out to buy people on DH's team boxes of chocolates and bottles of wine to thank them for their efforts, I resent the fact that if a work person phones/emails/texts DH he is on it straight away - my calls etc are ignored, I resent talking to his back while he is on his computer, I resent him not paying any attention to things that are going on in my/the kids lives.
We had a chat on wednesday night where I laid it on the line about how I was feeling. I asked for one evening a week and for sundays to be a family day. He didn't say anything, just sort of patted my leg in a 'silly old girl' sort of way.
He's been late home from work every night for weeks and weeks and weeks...tonight (in light of our chat) I thought he might make the effort to come home on time. But no - he's going to the pub with his team after work.
And he just sort of mentioned it as he was leaving. So I just sort of sent him a text thanking him for demonstrating exactly where I stand.
I'm sick of getting the crumbs off his table. I don't get the fun him, the switched on him, the energetic him. He'll give that to everyone else apart from me.
I'm so sad about it all that I don't know if I'm unreasonable or not.
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lowenergylightbulb · 10/10/2008 10:22
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