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Not quite sure about this

(19 Posts)
NotquiteKylie Thu 09-Oct-08 13:50:43

Been with BF for about three months now. sex life is good, but he want's to try anal.
Im willing to give anything a go (well almost anything grin), but Im worried it will hurt.

what a topic for my first post on mumsnet!

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight Thu 09-Oct-08 14:06:20

No it won't hurt, if you are doing it right. Key is trust, be relaxed, let go of your worries about mess/smell/whatever, and LUBE
I promise, it really doesn't hurt, and it can be great. Just watch out that if you do it once he doesn't expect it every time! Lol

mampam Thu 09-Oct-08 14:11:43

Perhaps your BF could start off using his fingers down there for the first couple of times?

SongbirdScreamsInTheDeadOfNite Thu 09-Oct-08 14:13:11

Mmnn, are you sure it won't hurt the first time? Not convinced myself!

2manychips Thu 09-Oct-08 14:18:21

Yes lube lube lube, watch the hygiene thing too-never in the vagina after anal without a good wash. Try diff positions if uncomfortable too.

horsemadgal Thu 09-Oct-08 14:24:14

And use condoms

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight Thu 09-Oct-08 14:31:21

no i promise it doesn't hurt! gross but true - the average penis is less thick than a big poo!

Simplysally Thu 09-Oct-08 14:33:43

How about he tries anal first? He might not be so keen if it's his bumhole!!

Just be careful as the others said if you go ahead.

theressomethingaboutmarie Thu 09-Oct-08 14:44:19

Ah see for me, that shute is an exit only.

solidgoldskullonastick Thu 09-Oct-08 14:48:02

As others have said, lots and lots of lube, use fingers first, tell him to take it slowly and stop if you don't like it.
Not everyone does like it, but those who do, really do. You need a fair bit of foreplay first as it will be better if you are already very turned on.
If you really don't like it, though, say so. Mind you, some (quite a few) heterosexual men like having their own rears penetrated so that might be fun to try as well: again, start with fingers and graduate to a strap on if you both enjoy it.

NotquiteKylie Thu 09-Oct-08 19:52:51

thanks, i guess i will give it a go. and i will find out if hes up 4 it

NotquiteKylie Fri 10-Oct-08 09:05:55

hmm, that was nice !

he loved it, and was reseptive to the idea that he should take a turn as well. ended up doing him with a small vibrator !
cant see us ever progressing to the strap on though.

nappyaddict Thu 23-Oct-08 14:56:50

see i've done anal but i hate the idea of fingers up there ... is that odd?

Kally Thu 23-Oct-08 19:29:13

AM I a prude or what? I wish I had the guts/ desire for this type of action, but I've suffered with piles (after childbirth)and just remember that hot searing pain and cant forget it! (I know, I know, but a stretched vagina at childbirth), well, you can't actually feel it after can you! (unless stitches etc). But PILES ugh, a curse of all curses...

ALso would be afraid of mess, or wind or whatever... naaa, not brave enough. Not sneering at it, just not brave enough.

That means I'll die and never know how that feels! sad LOL

LostHorizon Thu 23-Oct-08 23:57:59

@ Kally

Based on your other thread, this weekend's the time to find out...wink

Kally Fri 24-Oct-08 10:54:27

Well, even that prospective weekend has taken a turn for the worse, really (on an emotional level) but thats a whole 'nother issue. Have put visit off. (Honest not cos of Aunty Flo)!!!

nappyaddict Fri 24-Oct-08 11:32:26

Aunty Flo grin

Kally Fri 24-Oct-08 11:45:22

To be honest I have never called it that! I got that off of here! But yeah, grin...

nappyaddict Fri 24-Oct-08 12:48:44

really? i've never seen anyone call it that.

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