I can't get my head around this...
he asked if I was ever married the other day; we were talking about Grandma and Grampa being married and me their child - that's why we all have the same name.
So DS doesn't know his father, doesn't know he's "meant" to have one in his life and is more than happy without.
But, I feel he should know what happened; age appropriately of course.
He's nearly 6. We escaped DV when he was 6m old. I can't bear to talk about it; he's still affected in ways he doesn't realise the origin, but I am working on them and they are improving.
So when do I tell him? WHAT, more importantly do I tell him? How on earth do you tell a 6yr old his father hurt him as a baby, beat his mother and doesn't care that he's even alive....
he doesn't get gifts (birthday, xmas) and I don't get maintenance; the "man" literally has NO place in our lives. I don't even know where he lives.
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When should I tell DS about his abusive father?
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Alambil · 12/09/2008 01:08
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