Altho we finished up on a sad/freindly note, I feel gutted. I have tried to be rational about all of this.
This morning he called me and it brought tears to my eyes. He was trying to be upbeat and asked how my days had been. Told me about how his DS is starting school tomorrow etc. Asked about my DD.
Tonite I have another date (2nd) with the new guy. I was clinging to it like it was my lifeline but altho early days I have already got it on the doomed list. Unfairly so. Maybe this method of doing things is all wrong.
McD wants to talk to me later tonite when he gets back from work (it'll be after I get back from date as DD has school tomorrow and I want to be back early'ish to get her to bed etc).
He has probably been thinking about what my request was and proportionalised it. He has a tendency to think things thru and not act brashly. (One of the things I love about him).
I now feel so bad about all of this and I feel I am just too old for all this romance game. My heart aches, my stomach is in knots and I am off to mince in dating some nice man that is hopeful with me and yet I am just 'using' him really as my thoughts are elsewhere.
Is this bad of me?
McD may come about with 'opening doors and it's all been a big misunderstanding' re: me not being part of his life/home, him just coming here all this time.
My point when I discussed this with him in our last conversation was that it'll never flourish if he doesn't give me free access to his life as I have with him. To which he balked and said he has never stopped me fron going to his. (Which he hasn't and may have just been cooincidence that it never worked out every time)...
When I heard him on the phone today my heart was beating, I was so glad to hear his voice. I find myself all lifted up now, compared to yesterday where I was on autopilot.
What shall I do? I am so mixed up when really at my age, I should have all the rational answers/solutions.
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Kally · 02/09/2008 13:00
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