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DP's badgering

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SammyK · 29/08/2008 09:37

DCs gone out to play and DP instantly came on to me, he seems to think I can go from domestic daily grind to sex kitten in seconds.

Am I being a misery?

He has very high sex drive and I have very low (plus a prolapse btw), and we usually try to compromise. It's hard being at opposite ends of the scale, and I can't thinking we will both feel resentful forever.

He doesn't force the issue but makes me feel guilty, whether he does this purposefully or not I'm not sure.

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solidgoldbrass · 29/08/2008 09:42

Oh dear, poor both of you. THere are lots of ways to manage a mismatch in libido, the first and most important one is in understanding that the problem is between you and it is not that either of you is wrong for wanting/not wanting sex.
How is your relationship otherwise? Do you have fun together? Do you feel he pulls his weight around the house? It's quite easy for a woman, in particular, to feel that her life is non-stop chores and servicing her DP sexually just one more chore.

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SammyK · 29/08/2008 09:48

We have had a very bad time with me issuing an ultimatum and time frame for things to improve, and they did. We have been together 7 yrs and I love him so much.

He makes a much better effort in the house, and we try and make time as a couple.

Thanks for the reply, we do manage quite well, but I am worried resentment may build for either of us, and yes I do worry it will become a chore on my list.

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solidgoldbrass · 29/08/2008 21:00

It sounds like you will actually sort it out and things will get better: both of you are already making an effort to understand each other's point of view and to be kind to each other.
Have you had or are you having appropriate medical treatment for your prolapse? Because if not, please see your GP or well-woman clinic: don't be embarrassed, they will not think it's trivial and they will have seen it all before - and they wil be able to help.

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SammyK · 30/08/2008 18:38

Thanks I logged off yesterday as had loads to do but didn't want you to think I didn't appreciate your advice.

Yes re:prolapse - seeing a gynae soon.

We will be ok just having one of those of those 'aaargh' moments yesterday and couldn't ring someone as dp's feelings would have been hurt by overhearing me complain about him!